Being simple is complicated

It is a beautiful day today. The sun is shining, the sky is blue with a nice mix of light clouds. I bet there will be a great sunset tonight for photos. But, I’m not feeling so enthusiastic about that right now.

Ashbridges Bay, Toronto

Today I am frustrated and discouraged. My husband and I have this crazy dream to move to Costa Rica and live a more simple life, which I have mentioned here before and have only been talking about it FOREVER. Another alternative to that would be to move to a smaller city, bigger house, and spend more time together as a family. I would be very happy with either of those outcomes. However, it seems life is conspiring to keep us where we are and I am getting frustrated, antsy and incredibly restless.

I won’t get into details, but there have been a few things that have come up in recent weeks that make leaving the city more challenging. It mostly has to do with my husbands work, my children’s schooling and my own conflicting feelings of leaving my career when we do move. There are some other factors that are out of our control which means we just have to wait and see what happens. I know this is all very vague, but that’s all I can say.

Looking west from Humber Bay Park

Years ago, when I first moved to Toronto, I was taking the train up north to go visit my family for Christmas. I was single at that time, new to the city and my intentions were to stay here for a few years, get some work experience and move someplace else – West Coast was on my radar. I sat next to a very nice lady on the train and we talked for almost the entire five-hour train ride. She told me that when she was my age (early 20’s at the time) she too had plans to only stay in the city for a few years. Those few years turned into thirty years and she told me that as time went on, it got harder for her to change her lifestyle and leave, so she didn’t. She seemed happy enough however I will never forget the tinge of regret I heard in her voice. Recalling that conversation makes me fret.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I love Toronto. It’s a great city, but I need a change in lifestyle and I doubt that staying here will be the best place for that. Just when I think we are making some progress and getting closer to making that happen, some new challenge comes up and puts us back to square one. There are so many factors to juggle, decisions to be made and of course the needs of our kids to consider. My head is a jumbled mess of thoughts and worries about doing what is best for my family.

Heh. I can’t help but laugh at myself and the irony of all this. It seems the joke is on me.  Our road to the simple life is turning out to be way more complicated than I ever expected.

Lighthouse in Humber Bay Park


All photos are my own taken and edited with various apps on my iPhone5. Follow me on Instagram: @bearheartwoman and on EyeEm: @callmeshebear


8 thoughts on “Being simple is complicated

    1. callmeshebear Post author

      Thank you Jen. That reminds me, I need to do some spring cleaning and decluttering in my home. It’s a lot of work but it always makes me feel better afterwards.

  1. SmallHouseBigGarden

    there will always be some obstacles to a move of that enormous magnitude, so waiting for even some of those to disappear will pretty much negate any chance of leaving town.
    I think it will come down to taking a leap of faith.

    1. callmeshebear Post author

      I totally agree. It will take a leap of faith but my husband is not as convinced of that. I also tend to get into thinking too much about things which is an obstacle in itself. Thanks!

  2. Vicki Flaherty

    I love your photos, especially the last one…such great focus up close with what’s in the distance someone fuzzy…maybe it’s like what you are feeling?! I posted something today at on flow that you might find helpful? Breathe in hope, breathe out faith. Honor your feelings and keep looking within for your answers…


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